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Talk / Re: Funny init
« Last post by Fiz on Today at 04:57:22 AM »
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actually that has me thinking I'm sure I read, a wee while back, of a police officer who abused his position during the investigation of a young woman who had reported a serious sexual assault, he visited her at her home and in her vulnerable state raped her

Not quite. There have been a few occasions when police officers have had (consensual) sexual relationships with women they'd been assigned to support after the women had been raped by others. In all of these cases thankfully, the police officers were struck off for professional misconduct.

There was an awful case when a Hertfordshire policeman had several (5) sexual relationships with domestic violence victims and witnesses he'd been assigned to support. On one occasion, fathering a child with a victim. He was struck off and also sentenced to 3 years in prison. Should have many far more years than that imo.

Most of the policemen were married, including the Hertfordshire policeman.
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Talk / Re: Funny init ( people in power abusing women and men)
« Last post by Fiz on Today at 04:41:33 AM »
Kizzy I had no idea there was such thing as one to one therapy for trauma based abuse. What is it called. My new Consultant was very surprised when I met him that almost certainly my depression was triggered/caused by my PTSD and yet therapy or treatment for my PTSD has never been explored because in his view, it it caused the depression then if you help reduce or manage the trauma symptoms then you ease and lessen the depression because you're working on the cause.
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Talk / PIP & psychological distress (not benefits query)
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on October 19, 2017, 01:34:12 PM »
Something Fiz wrote about going out then made me think also about what Bub wrote about pain and getting about and I thought more about something...

As some of you here might weary of my saying, I have falls as a result of neurotoxicity from my antimad pills.  At the moment, I'm keeping the dose low so my balance isn't too bad, but my mood is dreadful.

But one problem I've had over the last three years or so is episodes of not feeling able to go out at all.  These days there are more and more days when I stay at home and the main way I'm getting out now is making appointments to meet friends who are neighbours, i.e. with whom my friendship is based around bumping into them.  Thus I have to get it together to go out to specific place at a specific time.  To say that I find that difficult would be an understatement.

The other thing I am doing is something I read on a board, so either here or in an Archers place, which is to set a timer for 20min and get up and do something every time it goes off.

But I'm putting on weight, and whilst part of that is comfort eating, another part is not enough exercise.  I don't believe that getting out to go to an appointment or to do some shopping actually burns off many calories, but it modifies appetite (unless your appointments are all for high-calorie meals), and for a lot of us it can improve mood, which reduces comfort eating.

But if people get fatter and less fit, doesn't that cost the state money?  How many people get physically unable to get out of the house as an indirect consequence of being emotionally unable to go out?

I'm not suggesting it's a simple mapping-on, but surely there's a link?

Further, something occurs to me.  If you're not supposed to need help getting out if the difficulty is psychological stress, what if you're on the dole not otherwise sick/disabled, or you're entitled to ESA but you want a job:  if you can't get out, how do you go for job interviews?  You may say ah, yes, but surely if you can't get to the interview, how will you get to the job, but the job  might entail mainly working from home or might pay enough for help getting to work or there might be works transport you feel ok using.  My dad couldn't cope with driving and he had dreadful anxiety and distress but pursued a successful career.  However, at one point, he secured part-time work he hadn't expected where, to his amazement, the job counted as senior enough for them to send a car to pick him up and take him to work and also to pick him up for evening functions. 

But of course, we have the stereotype, don't we?  If you're the sort of person that would struggle to get out, you couldn't possibly be the sort of person that would ever be wanted by an organisation that would provide transport.

But even at a low level they might.  What about, say, being afraid to go out alone but being able to do what I'll call basic, ground-level work such as painting or weeding?  You might get a job with a firm where they can pick you up in the van on the way to whichever house they're working at.

I suppose what I'm really doing here is venting my frustration at parliamentarians that not only want to cut benefits but don't seem to see the interplay between different conditons/problems.  (Yes, ok, another of my 'their incompetence sickens me as much as their deliberate cruelty' rants.)
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Welfare Rights / Re: Radiculopathy
« Last post by bub1 on October 19, 2017, 01:33:19 PM »
Thanks Fiz.
I keep thinking about applying for pip but not sure.
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Welfare Rights / Re: PIP mobility scenario
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on October 19, 2017, 01:18:03 PM »
 >bighugs<
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Welfare Rights / Re: PIP mobility scenario
« Last post by Fiz on October 19, 2017, 10:52:12 AM »
This is where it seems daft. If my GP or a shop were 4 doors down I could almost certainly get there with necessary pain relief. But as the nearest anything is a mile away my GP does home visits and my shopping is online and the asda man empties the crates onto worktops as I can't bend. So yes, I would get 4 doors down if I had to but as anywhere I need to go is further than I can get I am housebound to all extent and purposes. I think the questions don't fit everybody. I'm really low at the moment so all forms are beyond me.
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Welfare Rights / Re: Radiculopathy
« Last post by Fiz on October 19, 2017, 10:44:37 AM »
My back condition sounds similar symptom wise and I received 0 points for mobility but have enhanced care for mental health reasons. My mobility has decreased dramatically since my last ESA 50 though. I'm currently wondering whether to apply for pip mobility but think I'm too scared plus filling in a form is beyond me and I can't even get to a post box to post a letter so they'd never receive it!

I hope your symptoms improve. I'm moving up the analgesic ladder fairly rapidly with little success as yet but there has to be a stage on the ladder when I'm helped and it must be the same for you. Big hugs  >bighugs<
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Welfare Rights / Re: Radiculopathy
« Last post by bub1 on October 19, 2017, 10:31:20 AM »
Thanks Monic I do breathe heavy. Will get son to type separate sheet over weekend.
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Welfare Rights / Re: Radiculopathy
« Last post by Monic1511 on October 18, 2017, 10:00:38 PM »
Hi Bub
add to your descriptions - I get breathless on exertion and exertion can be walking from my bed to the toilet, due to the raynauds I have no feeling in my fingers or toes - this means that I cannot grip and retain control of any object I try to lift.  I drink through a straw as I got fed up dropping my drink on myself, I no longer drink hot liquids as it causes burns when I drop the cup.  both types of arthritis mean any physical task is extremely difficult and painful.  Since I cannot feel my toes I have a tendency to trip over my own feet so I shuffle rather than walk.
You could send the discharge papers as it also shows when you were last in hospital.

my way of doing the forms is to look at the descriptor and try to work out which job the are talking about
so mobilising - lollipop person
sitting / standing - check out assistant, call centre worker, office worker - just thought do you get breathless when speaking cos that would rule out tele sales (mum there's a heavy breather on the phone  >whistle<)
picking up & moving is the check out and the shelf stacker jobs

 >chocolate< >mug-tea<
monic
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Welfare Rights / Re: Radiculopathy
« Last post by bub1 on October 18, 2017, 09:08:26 PM »
Thankyou thatís all about right except canít pick up cup I use a straw lol.
I have trouble walking already because of osteoarthritis especially bad in knees and feet. Even walking with crutches is a pain literally as canít grip properly as for laying down I can only do that for showtimes and I am always tired. Wheoi had my last day surgery injection the discharge papers does say confirmed diagnosis of radiculopathy shall I send copy with form?
I appreciate all your help this is another illness added to;
Copd,raynauds,osteoarthritis,rheumatoid Arthritis.
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