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Title: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: devine63 on February 15, 2014, 11:50:50 PM
I finally heard from Tony (I came I saw I fell over) today.  He hasn't posted on Ouchtoo since Feb 2013 and I have heard little from him since then either - I gather he sank into another serious MH episode from the symptoms he showed beforehand.  I was relieved to get a phone call, but it suggested he remains pretty unwell, I'm afraid.  However it is good he has gotten back in touch.  He won't be online I don't think though.

 Wanting to let people know about this made me think maybe a thread of news about friends and former members might be good: for example Mabel from the Dominican Republic remains in fairly regular contact with me, as does Becca...

Maybe there is someone who keeps in touch with you?

regards, Deb
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: SunshineMeadows on February 19, 2014, 12:25:46 AM
For me whatever message board I am using tends to be the hub for friendships and if the meet up location goes then the friendship tends not to last. I still care about what is going on in the lives of my American friends but life changed so much since those good olde days we just cant go back and do it all over again.

I am happy enough about chatting to people via email etc but I prefer being amongst a group of people reading and posting on the board.

I hope Tony starts feeling better soon.

Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: Frances on February 19, 2014, 05:58:53 PM
I have tried to Contact Burpy for a few years now. We used to speak daily then she sank into deep depression so contact got less and less.
Also Abe who last I heard was very poorly. I never even had my usual Xmas Card for either of them for a year from Abe and 2 from Burpy.
I am assuming Their time had come.
Anyone with news of them I would so like to hear even a PM would be great.
Thanks Frances.
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: auntieCtheM on February 19, 2014, 06:07:37 PM
I remember Burpy well.  She left our board to go elsewhere that she preferred didn't she?
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: Mabelcat on February 22, 2014, 10:13:41 PM
Wobbling Wilma and Purple Cat are both alive and kicking on Facebook.
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: SunshineMeadows on February 22, 2014, 11:29:11 PM
Quite a few people who did not like the idea of using Facebook when BBC Ouch Too closed have ended up connected to other old Ouchers on Facebook. I am there too but dont post much. They get pretty chatty and have a laugh around together so my Newsfeed quite often makes me lol.

Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: devine63 on February 23, 2014, 12:20:28 AM
that's great news SUnshine!

D
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: auntieCtheM on February 23, 2014, 05:36:02 PM
I looked up Wobbling Wilma on facebook but I could not find any postings for the last couple of years.
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: AndMac on February 27, 2014, 11:30:33 PM
I have a nagging thought that I did see something from Wilma a few months ago, is it possible that she closed one FB account and opened a different one?
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: Mabelcat on February 28, 2014, 06:38:12 PM
Wilma has an account in her real name - she is still wobbling!
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: AitchEss on March 25, 2014, 10:02:38 PM
That's strange as I was about to ask if anyone had any news of Burpy!   Glad you have news of Wobbling Wilma.

Aitch
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: auntieCtheM on April 23, 2014, 05:47:11 PM
I've heard that Yvette is very ill.  It seems that she has not been right since her hospital stay at the beginning of the year.  She has another large ulcer on her leg that refuses to respond to any treatment.

Hugs to Yvette  >hugs<
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: Dic Penderyn on April 23, 2014, 05:59:17 PM
Oh dear sad to hear that.

 >bighugs< Yvette
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on April 23, 2014, 08:10:21 PM
Yvette >bighugs<
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: feehutch on April 23, 2014, 08:51:53 PM
Hugs from me too x
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: Hurtyback on April 23, 2014, 09:07:03 PM
I am very sorry to hear that, aunty. Thank you for letting us know. Yvette  >bighugs<
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: devine63 on April 23, 2014, 11:48:39 PM
best wishes to Yvette   >bighugs<
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: myrtlemaid on April 24, 2014, 02:38:08 PM
thinking of ypou Tveyye hope you soon are much better
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: Jockice on April 25, 2014, 07:39:04 AM
I'm still in touch with Yvette. I'll pass on your best wishes.
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: stalwart on April 25, 2014, 11:27:19 AM
Jockice

Could you add mine as well please.
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: auntieCtheM on April 25, 2014, 07:47:45 PM
Oh umm, I got it wrong.  Yvette has an abscess that will not heal, not an ulcer. oops!
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: seegee on May 01, 2014, 09:41:09 PM
Hope it begins to improve very soon Yvette. >bighugs<
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: bulekingfisher on May 30, 2014, 05:48:36 PM
Hello Yevette

 I send   >bighugs< >chocolate< >rose< :-) hope this helps
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: wheelydad on May 31, 2014, 12:19:01 AM
Hugs and best wishes to Yvette  >bighugs<
Title: Re: news of members and former members
Post by: MabelDR on June 20, 2014, 11:08:07 PM
Oh I didn't know Deb had mentioned me here.I just saw this post.wow.I missed a lot from this place:/I'm still in touch with Tony.I told him about Deb yesterday and we couldn't keep conversation going because he's very sick and paranoid.I feel so bad cause i just see him sicker and i don't know how to help him.Anybody here knows him besides me and Deb?Thank you
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Dic Penderyn on July 09, 2014, 07:16:59 PM
I hope Rosie is OK if I remember correctly she lives in the danger zone of rockets from Gaza.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 09, 2014, 07:22:30 PM
Rosie's last post was that she was leaving OuchToo, so not sure if we will see her again anyway, but good of you to think of her, Dic ..
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Dic Penderyn on July 09, 2014, 07:49:04 PM
Oh I did not know she was leaving Kizzy, mind you thats some thing she had said several times on several forums but always seemed to return she could be a little controversial at times but still I do hope she has come to no harm.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SunshineMeadows on July 09, 2014, 09:40:17 PM
http://ouchtoo.org/index.php?topic=7488.0 

Sometimes the more I do for a particular member the more annoyed they get  >confusedgif<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Dic Penderyn on July 09, 2014, 10:30:18 PM
umm yes I see what you mean I had missed the last few posts on that thread ah well.  >erm<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SirCumference on July 29, 2014, 04:02:57 PM
I met Yvette the other day; she is on fine form.  >biggrin<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SirCumference on July 29, 2014, 04:04:25 PM
Any news of Mentalas (Pete) ?
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on July 29, 2014, 04:58:41 PM
I'm not in contact with many former members.
Sociable Peter is busy, Hoss seems to be doing reasonably well. 
I mostly hope that things are OK with those I haven't heard from in a while, I don't do facebook & not everyone uses e-mail.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Yvette on July 29, 2014, 05:25:04 PM
I'm still ill despite the abscess having healed up (after months of visits from the District Nurses three times a week to pack and dress it).

I am now having dreadful problems with my asthma. For years, it has been under good control and I have rarely ever had to go on a Nebuliser. But this year I have been up to the GP twice a week for weeks and almost had to be admitted to hospital.  I even had to be taken up the surgery in my nightie one day as it wasn't possible to get me dressed!

I have been on steroids for weeks.  I have had to increase the use of the Ventolin (reliever) to several times a day.  The preventer has been changed to a stronger one.   My anti-histamine has been changed to one specifically for asthmatics.  In addition I have a nasal spray to use twice a day and Pseudoephrine tablets three times a day. 

Plus, although I rinse my mouth after every inhaler use, I developed Thrush in my mouth - which I have had for two weeks. This week the GP changed the medication for that to a different one as the first one didn't work.  The problem is that my old preventer (and the reliever) are taken through a Volumatic Spacer but the new preventer is a suck inhaler (not aerosol) and that is the thing that causes the Thrush.  Joy of joys.

The hot weather has knocked me out and made me feel really ill.  Plus, I have to cover every inch of myself whenever I go out as the Doxycline which I have to take permanently because of the abscess, causes photosensitivity and I get burned to blazes very painfully.

Yet, despite all of the above, I did see Sir Circumference last week - who is very gallant to say I am on top form!!

I must tell you that Sir C is nothing like his ballet tutu picture.  Sir C is in fact slim and very good looking. 
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 29, 2014, 05:32:37 PM
Strewth, Yvette, you have indeed been 'through the mill' there, and you're not alone in feeling the impact of the heat - assuming this caused the extra difficulties with asthma?

Great that you met Sir C, but I shall have a lot of difficulty un-imagining him as a portly fellow...
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Yvette on July 29, 2014, 05:37:48 PM
Sir C has been very self-disciplined and has lost a lot of weight during the last two years.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 29, 2014, 05:41:52 PM
That's a tough thing to do - I commend him for that!

Seegee, I don't do Facebook either, or Twa - I mean, Twitter, never really got that character limit thing  >whistle<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on July 29, 2014, 05:45:57 PM
Yvette, I'm sorry to read that you're still in a bad way. Thanks for dropping in and letting us know how you are, and I hope that things will begin to improve for you soon.  >bighugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: ditchdwellers on July 29, 2014, 06:11:38 PM
Hi Yvette,  I have missed your contributions to Ouchtoo.
Best wishes for an improvement in your health  >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SirCumference on July 29, 2014, 07:07:55 PM
Sir C has been very self-disciplined and has lost a lot of weight during the last two years.

Yes, I have. It was a case of "lose 15 stones or die"
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SashaQ on July 29, 2014, 07:12:12 PM
Hello Yvette! Sorry to hear your asthma is so bad... I prefer the aerosols and volumatic myself, and didn't realise the other types could cause thrush  >yikes<  I am lucky that my asthma is fine as long as I avoid the allergic triggers.  The hot weather doesn't help indeed...

Mentalas is on Facebook with his cats  >biggrin<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SashaQ on July 29, 2014, 07:32:08 PM
I feel contractually obliged to point out that losing weight does not necessarily make a difference to risk of dying...

 :-(
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 29, 2014, 09:08:39 PM
That, I suppose, would depend on the weight being truly excess in the first place!

>edit to add:  Good to hear mentalas/pete is still kicking around;  for some reason it made me smile on BBC Ouch! when he always typed the whole of his names in lower-case, as reproduced here  >biggrin<

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on July 29, 2014, 09:31:31 PM
It is lovely to see you again Yvette, you have been missed. I'm sorry to hear that you are still so unwell though  :-(


Sasha, I think we all have the same risk of dying...
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 29, 2014, 11:11:44 PM
Really Yvette? - Sir C is a gallant gentleman and Thin!!  Well you are a lucky girlie then.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: wheelydad on July 29, 2014, 11:46:29 PM
Thanks for the 'update' Yvette, I hope you will soon feel on the road to a full recovery.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 30, 2014, 12:24:49 PM
"Any news of Mentalas (Pete) ?"

Well I was friends with him on Facebook and we used to regularly comment on each other's stuff. Then he suddenly vanished from my timeline. I don't usually even notice if someone does that but in this case I did, so sent him a message asking if I'd offended him. He said no and also said he hadn't defriended me either but was having some problem with his prescriptions. I left it at that, but if he sent me another friend request I'd accept it.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SashaQ on July 30, 2014, 08:04:44 PM
I feel contractually obliged to point out that losing weight does not necessarily make a difference to risk of dying...

Deb gained weight because of her health conditions and medication.  Her medication was changed so she lost weight, but it didn't mean her health conditions had changed...

 :-(
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SashaQ on July 30, 2014, 08:05:06 PM
I didn't realise I was so honoured that pete managed to find me again when he got his Facebook sorted out  :-) I see he found myrtlemaid as well  >thumbsup< He made me some excellent artwork for my homepage  >cool< 
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Yvette on July 30, 2014, 10:38:51 PM
Thank you all so much for your much appreciated good wishes and welcome back.

I love you all so much.   >heart<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 30, 2014, 10:45:10 PM
We love you too Yvette, well, those of us that love you do, anyway!!  >lol<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Yvette on July 31, 2014, 12:06:03 PM
 >blush<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: AndMac on August 02, 2014, 10:33:35 AM
Yvette is back! Yay!   >cool<  >biggrin<   >hugs<
 My goodness, you have been through it with your health, Yvette. I am so pleased that you felt well enough to let us know and to see Sir C.  Several  friends have had asthma and it is so scary. One of my friends is badly asthmatic. We did a college course together some years ago, she had to go home one  day because the air freshener the cleaner sprayed in the ladies set her off and she was so ill. You seem similarly affected.

Oral thrush must be agony. My son had it when he was a tiny baby.
Gentian violet is an extremely old fashioned remedy for thrush,  but it worked for him and it is still available, as it is very effective.
 It did mean that we had a purple mouthed baby for a while. Plus purple stains on cot and pram sheets that never came out.  It didn't matter, it was the only thing that worked and he wasn't in pain.

Sir C., I have to rejig my mental picture of you now. This is not easy. The pink tutu is a hard mental image to remove.  >biggrin<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SirCumference on August 02, 2014, 08:50:54 PM
I may do a new slimline avatar, but I'll have to change my name.

I'm thinking of venturing into Facebook. I was forced to join a few years ago, when a friend's memorial was all being done through Facebook  >yikes< , but it scares me.

I used to get bonkers friendship requests from people I have known for years, and a colleague can't even fart without telling his Facebook friends about it.

Apparently, he says, it is my fault. I must have agreed to let him into my Facebook life at some point/ join his group.

Fb wanted to know such crap about me that I ran out of patience with them last night. I'm probably not the FB type / target audience.  >biggergrin< >crying< >confused<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on August 02, 2014, 08:56:25 PM
I'm on Facebook, but only because there are a few clubs that I wanted to join and they only do Facebook.  Be very careful.  Whatever you write can be read by all sorts.  And I too get fed up with friends requests.  I never respond.  Every 'friend' can read everything you write and it stays there for ever more.  *gnashes teeth*
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on August 03, 2014, 10:05:10 AM
All the stuff that SirCumference and AuntieCtheM don't trust/don't like about Facebook are the things I like about it. The sheer randomness mainly. Friend requests from people you've never heard of/knew years ago but haven't thought about since then. I accept them all (except from one person I knew as a teenager and couldn't stand) and never defriend anyone (except, again, for one person, who got on my tits in real life).

All my settings are public. I don't keep anything on Facebook secret. Can't see the point of that*. If you're going to be on it you might as well really be on it. I did delete a couple of posts earlier this year (for legal reasons basically) but apart from that...

Now Twitter, although I'm nominally on it, I rarely look at it let alone post anything on it. I just don't get the appeal of that at all.

(*I suppose this comes from my journalism days. Even working for a local newspaper you learn that there isn't any point trying to hide anything. I was so shy when I started that I even considered asking if I could do it under a false name. But that got beaten out of me pretty quickly).
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on August 03, 2014, 10:48:34 AM
But having said that, there is an awful lot of crap on it. The attention-seeking disguised as making an important point stuff, the constant pity me stuff, the hectoring of those who don't agree with someone else's statements stuff. All human life is there, and I use it mainly for messing about on, so other people are welcome to write whatever they want as long as they don't interfere with what I write on it.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on August 03, 2014, 11:02:47 AM
The attention-seeking disguised as making an important point stuff, the constant pity me stuff, the hectoring of those who don't agree with someone else's statements stuff.

Ah... not so dissimilar to message boards, then  ;-)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on August 03, 2014, 11:16:16 AM
Indeed. Although I've only had two proper rows in my six years or so on Facebook. One with a guy I know from university who out of nowhere wrote a post about how people on benefits  shouldn't be allowed to have pets and the other with someone who I helped get work experience with at the paper a few years ago, after I posted a clip of dogs jumping on trampolines. Apparently the poor beasts would have been terrified and I was promoting animal cruelty. I told her that I'd never heard so much shit in my life. We're still 'friends' on Facebook but haven't been in any sort of contact since.

Some of my 'friends' on there do have views that I object to but that's up to them. Although I did call a friend of a 'friend' a racist a couple of years ago for going on about 'gingers' and dared him if he was so brave to write something similar about people with a different skin colour to his. Surprise surprise he didn't.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on August 03, 2014, 08:47:03 PM
I just do not have the energy or interest in other people's random ramblings.  OK if they have something useful to say, which is why I am in a couple of 'clubs'.  I need what energy and time I have to cope with life in general, there is little left over to make work for myself.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on August 05, 2014, 04:52:11 AM
Depends on what you define as 'useful' though. As far as I'm aware I'm under no obligation to read/like/form an opinion on anyone's Facebook ramblings, or indeed ramblings anywhere. Some things are entertaining or informative without necessarily being useful. And then again, some things aren't....
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Dic Penderyn on October 10, 2014, 11:09:23 PM
Have not seen any posts by Prabhakari lately hope he is OK.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on October 31, 2014, 04:50:32 PM
Sunny Clouds

I've been a bit concerned about Sunny Clouds.  However she assures me that she is OK but she has had a lot going on in her life.  She has decided to have a short break whilst she sorts a few things out.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on October 31, 2014, 07:54:27 PM
Thank you auntie, I have shared your concerns. I would asl people to remember that SC has previously told us that becoming angry and combative can be a sign that her mental health is slipping. I hope she will be OK.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on October 31, 2014, 08:17:43 PM
Thanks Auntie. I also found her sudden departure worrying.

I would asl people to remember that SC has previously told us that becoming angry and combative can be a sign that her mental health is slipping.

Exactly. As said on another thread, I hope that Sunny will be feeling better soon.

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Dic Penderyn on November 02, 2014, 08:48:10 PM
I tend to forget sometimes and can be somewhat less understanding than maybe I should.  >blush<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on November 02, 2014, 09:56:29 PM
Please do not worry everyone, her departure is not anything to do with you.  She has been having a stressful home life all round and noticed that she was not behaving as normal.  So she decided to have a break incase anyone here were to trigger her inadvertently.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on November 03, 2014, 04:01:02 PM
Thank you auntie. Sunny has had a lot to deal with for a long time, it's no wonder that they have taken their toll. I wish her good health and happiness.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Sunny Clouds on November 18, 2014, 01:38:53 AM
I'm back.  I'm not feeling very well, though.  I'll try and stay away from threads where I feel irritable.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Sunshine on November 18, 2014, 09:37:45 AM
Good to see you back. I hope things improve for you soon  >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on November 18, 2014, 06:13:40 PM
I'm very glad to see you back Sunny, although I'm sorry that you are still unwell  >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on November 18, 2014, 08:06:50 PM
Glad to see you here Sunny Clouds & hope your health improves more asap. >bighugs< >chocolate<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on November 18, 2014, 10:15:58 PM
Hello-o-o-o Sunny.

Come and have a cuddle with Alice the cat.  That should cheer you up good and proper!  >cat<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Sunny Clouds on November 19, 2014, 05:30:52 PM
Aww, a furry cuddle.  Thank you.

I'm feeling very irritable at the moment.  Several times recently people have said things that have got under my skin and instead of just thinking 'prat' (or something less polite) and moving on, I've responded.

I feel impatient and intolerant.  I think a lot of issues I'd buried are surfacing, like what I perceive as generally (not entirely) rather a wide gap between mental illness/health communities and predominantly physically-impaired disability communities.

Part of me is irritated with both.  I want to set out the social model of disability in block capitals across sundry mental illness-focussed sites, and to scream in block capitals on (mainly physically-focussed) disability sites that in case they hadn't noticed, people with mental illnesses and impairments get shat on from all sides in terms of people's perceptions of how they behave or are likely to behave.

So there you go, I'm hacked off with the world and feel like saying to people "go shove it, I don't want to be associated with your attitudes".

I've a more than sneaking suspicion that when I'm like this, that's just how people feel about me...

So bear with me as I try to stay calm.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on November 19, 2014, 05:57:12 PM
Wotcha Sunny, what you talk about above isn't alien to me, as a fellow mad person...I remember similar sentiments from others too that were posted on the old Ouch board over the years.  There might even be a good 'Talk' thread in the mix for when/if you feel up to it!  In the meantime, good that you feel comfortable enough here on OuchToo to be honest about what you're thinking and feeling  >thumbsup<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on November 19, 2014, 08:29:57 PM
Those of us with both mental illness and physical disability (mainly invisible physical too) can be told off from all sides for being "not disabled enough" because... I'm not mad all the time, not always in severe pain and... oh bugger, the memory problems & fatigue ARE there all the time, so maybe I am "proper disabled" even if it is invisible.  >erm< >confused<

Oh well, have some more >chocolate< >apple< >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Sunny Clouds on November 19, 2014, 08:48:26 PM
Sorry, but if you can't prove to me with photos and certificates that you are genuinely disabled, impaired, and generally buggered up, I shan't take you seriously.  My disability is higher up the heirarchy than yours*, so there!

*Well, it may or may not be, but it's important to establish that I'm more disabled than you when setting forth my views.   >devil<

As for the chocolate - if it's cocoa-impaired I don't want it.  Only fully-cocoa'd chocolate meets my high standards.  There are limits to equality.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on November 19, 2014, 09:29:54 PM
Most of the chocolate I buy is 85% cocoa >chocolate< >chocolate< - and you know I'm buggered up, you've read enough of my nonsensical ramblings up to now! >devil< >lol<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Sunny Clouds on November 19, 2014, 10:16:47 PM
And, as they say, it takes one to know one!   >chocolate<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on November 20, 2014, 06:10:35 PM
*shakes head and backs quietly out of thread*


 >lol<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Sunny Clouds on November 21, 2014, 01:59:35 PM
[whispers to Seegee] Is Hurtyback ablist or chocolatist?[stops whispering]

Oh hello, Hurtyback, didn't see you there.  There's no need to leave.   >whistle<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: ditchdwellers on November 21, 2014, 02:13:57 PM
Hi Sunny.  It's good to see you back  >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on November 21, 2014, 02:15:36 PM
Good to see you back, Sunny Clouds  >bighugs<

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on November 21, 2014, 07:15:23 PM
Chocolatist I'm afraid Seegee, the higher % cocoa solids the better  >chocolate< >biggrin<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: stalwart on November 25, 2014, 11:08:42 AM
http://www.hotelchocolat.co.uk

For all

Good to see you back Sunny.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on November 25, 2014, 01:10:16 PM
Thanks for the chocs - I prefer the higher-cocoa content stuff too. >chocolate< >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Fiz on January 25, 2015, 07:53:22 AM
I'm wondering how Becca is and hoping she is okay. I wish I had her email addie so I could message her.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on January 25, 2015, 01:03:00 PM
Got a reply to a birthday message I'd sent to Sociable Peter a few days ago so I know he's still around. :)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on January 25, 2015, 06:31:11 PM
That is good hear.  Thanks seegee.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Yvette on January 28, 2015, 10:05:21 AM
I hope Peter is as well as possible.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on January 28, 2015, 10:14:35 AM
I think today is myrtlemaid's birthday, so if you're reading, hello & happy birthday.  >rosez< >cake< >bubbly<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Yvette on January 28, 2015, 12:53:55 PM
Many happy returns of the day, myrtlemaid.  >star<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Rosie on January 28, 2015, 01:24:48 PM
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Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Rosie on January 28, 2015, 01:36:11 PM
And this is where I have to apologise to everyone.  I get frustrated and lose my temper and then upset people when I do not mean to do so.

Please forgive me.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SunshineMeadows on January 28, 2015, 03:02:54 PM
Myrtlemaid is still posting on Facebook and is going through cancer treatment (also mentioned on another thread). She knows we are here for here when she has the time and energy for posting in more than one place >bighugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on March 26, 2015, 03:51:01 PM
Is anyone in touch with Bubble? She hasn't been around for ages, so I wondered if anyone had news of how she is getting on.

L'Ankou also hasn't been about lately. Does anyone know how he is?

Thanks in advance  :-)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: disableddramaqueen on September 11, 2015, 11:19:03 PM
Glad to hear tony is still around I've not posted in a while either  forgot my old login hope your ok deb
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on September 12, 2015, 09:51:02 AM
Hi DDQ, very sorry to have to tell you that Deb passed away last summer.

Good to see you again anyway, and hope you are keeping as OK as any of us can, if you know what I mean!

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: disableddramaqueen on September 12, 2015, 11:22:38 AM
Oh my I have been away a while such sad news
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on December 06, 2015, 03:02:32 AM
More sad news. You may not remember that Yvette was saying that she has had a bad pain in her back for three months.  Well it turns out that two of her vertebrae have broken into little pieces.  So far there is nothing that the hospital can do about it.  So she carries on taking morphine.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Fiz on December 06, 2015, 11:40:21 AM
Oh poor Yvette do pass on my best wishes. I hope that her pain can be managed. I have crushed vertebrae in my spine and before I lost weight was in constant agony but fortunately since I've shed 8 stone I only have pain when carrying weight or bending rather than all the time so a big improvement but I remember the pain all too well.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on December 06, 2015, 10:01:01 PM
Poor Yvette!  :-(
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on December 08, 2015, 09:30:12 AM
That's awful for her. Please do pass on my best wishes.  >bighugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Tony_Demoncy on December 13, 2015, 06:40:25 PM
Hi Chaps, 'tis tony, or at least Tony's Yolk! That mostly being what's left of Tony lol  >whistle< >bighugs< all round and I hope folks are doing ok and surviving the slings and arrows of outrageous Nazi's.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on December 15, 2015, 09:59:15 AM
Welcome back, Tony! >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Tony_Demoncy on December 15, 2015, 05:16:34 PM
Thanks for the welcome back NN :D
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 18, 2015, 10:11:25 AM
Hi,

I used to post on ouch as swift - I'm a wheelchair user, developed MH issues in 2009 and lost contact with everyone.  I recognise a few people.  I'm really sad to see that Deb passed away last Summer...I was at university where she was a senior disability adviser, and she was such a wonderful person.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on December 18, 2015, 11:59:44 AM
I remember you from former BBC Ouch, Swift - good to see you again  >thumbsup<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 18, 2015, 12:13:09 PM
Good to see you too KizzyKazaer! I remember you too!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on December 18, 2015, 12:19:32 PM
 >biggrin< I've just recalled, from 'old Ouch', that you were one of the first people to welcome me when I joined that board in August 2007 - though I had a different name then, you might also remember 'tigerwarriorprincess'  ;-)

How's things on the MH front now, vastly improved I hope?

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 18, 2015, 02:19:40 PM
Ahh! Yes, I remember tigerwarriorprincess!  Things are still very difficult, but I haven't been hospitalised for a year!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on December 18, 2015, 05:06:57 PM
Sometimes that can be what it comes down to, marking off the days/weeks/months since an admission!  All the same, sorry it's still such a struggle and I hope you're getting some good support from the 'services'...
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 18, 2015, 05:27:14 PM
Thanks!  I'm currently trying to repair my relationship with services...

How are you doing?
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on December 18, 2015, 05:37:45 PM
'Repair your relationship'?  >yikes<  that sounds intriguing...

I have been stable for a few years now after a hospital stay in 2010 followed by a humungous depression that lasted into 2012 - now I've accepted (along with my family) that I can't be what I used to be before my two psychotic breakdowns, life 'in my head' is so much more peaceful.  Have found that I prefer a quiet life with plenty of routine and not too many surprises or drama!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 18, 2015, 06:06:16 PM
'quiet life with plenty of routine and not too many surprises or drama' sounds like a great way to live, I'd like that!

It's a long story - I lost my v supportive GP, psych, CPN and support group, and had v shaky relationships with the new psych/CPN, so when things went wrong they went more wrong than they should have.  Trying to build some relationships now while I'm well, as in Jan it'll be all new GP/CPN/psych again.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on December 18, 2015, 07:39:45 PM
Hi there and welcome, swift >welcome<

Quote
'quiet life with plenty of routine and not too many surprises or drama' sounds like a great way to live, I'd like that!

Put my name down for that lifestyle too, please. >thumbsup<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 18, 2015, 07:54:16 PM
Hi NN, nice to meet you!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on December 18, 2015, 09:10:07 PM
Hi and  >welcome< Swift

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 19, 2015, 08:11:41 AM
Hi Hurtyback, thanks and nice to meet you!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SashaQ on December 19, 2015, 11:52:07 AM
'Tis a small world and so many people knew lovely Deb...

Welcome Tony and swift  >biggrin<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 19, 2015, 12:41:22 PM
Hi SashaQ :) Good to meet you!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on December 19, 2015, 05:11:27 PM
'quiet life with plenty of routine and not too many surprises or drama' sounds like a great way to live, I'd like that!

It's a long story - I lost my v supportive GP, psych, CPN and support group, and had v shaky relationships with the new psych/CPN, so when things went wrong they went more wrong than they should have.  Trying to build some relationships now while I'm well, as in Jan it'll be all new GP/CPN/psych again.

>rant mode on< Why can't these people stay in their jobs long enough to provide continuity  >doh< Having every professional support line cut at once was never going to help anyone's state of mental health, was it  >doh< You shouldn't have had to go through that  >thumbsdown<  >rant mode off<

Oh yes - before anyone gets the idea that I have some sort of idyllic life  ;-)  it's been carefully crafted over the past few years so I expose myself to as few triggers etc as possible, and can be somewhat limiting when other people are involved (though parents cut me more slack now).  The main thing is that I am left alone to mind my own business;  I have no wish to control other people's lives, just my own environment!

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: swift on December 19, 2015, 07:16:28 PM
 >biggrin< Definitely they should!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on December 24, 2015, 05:29:48 PM
I haven't been around so much recently, so it might be me, but I don't think I have seen Sunny Clouds for a while. Is she OK, does anyone know?
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on December 28, 2015, 12:57:53 PM
She was posting on the 14th December on a thread in Talk, but you could try PM-ing her to see how she is :-)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on December 28, 2015, 04:29:00 PM
Thanks NN  :-)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SunshineMeadows on December 29, 2015, 04:47:59 PM
Sunny has been around in the last week  :-)

In general posting is down at this time of year  >uprightchristmastree< >tree<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on July 09, 2016, 08:40:47 PM
Has anyone spotted/heard from seegee? She hasn't been about the place for ages.

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SashaQ on July 10, 2016, 10:55:22 AM
I'm on her mailing list, and I did receive an e-mail from her this year, but I see she was last active here at the end of March, and I think the e-mail was sent at about that time too...
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 10, 2016, 02:09:57 PM
Over the past few months, I've missed a lot of Ouchers who used to be active and I've wondered why they're not posting... Would love to see some 'returners'!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 19, 2016, 08:48:04 PM
Has anyone spotted/heard from seegee? She hasn't been about the place for ages.

Strangely enough (as this is my first visit to Ouchtoo for a few weeks), I had an email exchange with Seegee in the last 24 hours. Dunno why she hasn't been posting but she has been on holiday with members of her family to Malta and is currently in the process of getting a new PA as her last one left recently and trying to keep her home tidy etc on her own is taking up a lot of energy.

And as for me not personally posting, I go through periods like that anyway but haven't had a lot of energy myself and a lot on. Nothing exciting, just stuff I've had to do.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on July 20, 2016, 11:01:20 AM
Cheers Jockice, and it's good to see you again.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 20, 2016, 10:13:56 PM
Hi Jockice, are you still seeing your ladyfriend?
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 21, 2016, 06:20:08 AM
Hi there. I certainly am. We'll have been dating for two years in less than a month. Blimey. Hope you're all okay.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 21, 2016, 06:56:10 AM
Two years?  Wow.  It must be love  ;-)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on July 21, 2016, 12:37:51 PM
2 years?? That has gone by so quickly!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 21, 2016, 07:35:37 PM
It is you know. On both counts. Quite remarkable.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 21, 2016, 09:50:11 PM
I assumed that you were not on here for a while because you have been otherwise busy!  I'm so pleased for you.  It is so rare in life that we  come across people we want to spend time with; (with whom we want to spend time!)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 22, 2016, 10:29:17 AM
It's not just that, but she does live over an hour's drive away and I go over to see her usually twice a fortnight (and sometimes more) so it does leave me a bit tired out the rest of the time. It's easier for me to go over there than for her to come over here, as she has two kids, a dog and a job whereas I have a cat and that's it.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 22, 2016, 07:50:08 PM
OOoo a doggie!  what type is s/he?
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on July 22, 2016, 08:44:32 PM
It is you know. On both counts. Quite remarkable.

Cracking news, Jockice! Really pleased for you both. >star<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 23, 2016, 11:24:15 AM
OOoo a doggie!  what type is s/he?

A lurcher. The size of a pony. He's great.

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 23, 2016, 11:26:49 AM
Or even this. Not one of the best night's sleep I've ever had.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Fiz on July 23, 2016, 04:18:29 PM
 >biggergrin< That is SO cute though!
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 23, 2016, 04:33:39 PM
 >lol< you had to get the bum end as well...
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on July 23, 2016, 08:54:44 PM
Lovely photos!  >lol< `
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 23, 2016, 09:20:41 PM
 >lol<  It is always the rear end in the face.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 25, 2016, 03:49:05 PM
He's fantastic. One of the greatest dogs ever. If not the greatest (along with my sister's staffie). Here he is with some woman.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 25, 2016, 06:49:40 PM
They both look very nice.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 25, 2016, 07:14:36 PM
They're okay if you like that sort of thing.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Hurtyback on August 03, 2016, 08:33:13 PM
Changing the subject somewhat - has anyone heard from Fiz recently?
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on September 07, 2016, 09:44:58 PM
Does anyone know how Dic is? His login hasn't been active for nearly a month.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Dic Penderyn on April 01, 2017, 11:46:19 PM
I'm OK now NN though have been better  :-)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: auntieCtheM on April 01, 2017, 11:56:31 PM
What has been the trouble Dic?
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on April 02, 2017, 04:32:15 PM
Good to see you, Dic, though sorry it seems as if you've not been doing so well..

(and come to think of it, haven't seen NN for a few weeks either)
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on April 08, 2017, 04:22:14 PM
Brilliant to see you again, Dic, although less so to hear you haven't been well >hugs<

Sorry for being absent. Kizzy. I'm struggling with fatigue atm.  >zzz<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on April 08, 2017, 05:00:51 PM
No sorries required!

Just knowing that people are still kicking around out there is enough  >thumbsup<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Fiz on May 21, 2017, 08:28:15 PM
Anyone know how hurty is? I'm missing her.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on May 27, 2017, 08:05:29 PM
Fiz, Hurty is moving house. I'm sure she'll be back when she's settled in and has her broadband up and running.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: suessad on July 06, 2017, 06:36:38 AM
Has anyone heard from Frances. ?
Frances   >bighugs<  Please just drop by and let us know how you are doing.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on July 30, 2017, 12:28:20 AM
Bad penny here...  ;-)  Hi everyone.  >biggrin<   >chocolate<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on July 30, 2017, 07:02:06 AM
Seegee! Welcome back!  >hugs<
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: SunshineMeadows on July 30, 2017, 08:12:53 AM
Welcome back Seegee  >chocolate< >apple<

Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: Jockice on July 30, 2017, 12:19:49 PM
I'm still around too. It's been ages since I've posted though. Have to remedy that soon.
Title: Re: News of members and former members: by Deb (Devine 63)
Post by: seegee on July 30, 2017, 12:23:32 PM
I'm certainly not likely to catch up with all the stuff I've missed while I've not been here; have met one or two Ouchers & ex-Ouchers since I last posted, but even those were last year!