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Cafe / Re: Re-launching the ship happyness by bulekingfisher
« Last post by bulekingfisher on June 24, 2017, 03:55:46 PM »
Hello Kizzy Kazaer

If it's to hot you could use the ship's in door pool the water is cold + been inside it is shaded
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Cafe / Re: Getting married
« Last post by NeuralgicNeurotic on June 24, 2017, 02:14:31 PM »
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On the upside a flowered hairband thingum arrived in the post yesterday so I can have a faff about whether to use it or not. Is the tradition that brides onlywear silver, gold and crystal jewellery? 

A quick scout around the 'net revealed that pearls are traditional, although it's the first I'd heard of it. I'd say go with whatever you think looks good, or has the most significance for you.

The floral headband sounds lovely!


 




Picture shows a white rectangular sign leaning against a weathered red brick wall.  The sign has "Best day ever" written in on it black, and is surrounded by flower-filled bottles and mugs. The word "Love" is spelled out on the mugs.
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Talk / Re: Things are comming together
« Last post by bulekingfisher on June 24, 2017, 12:07:22 PM »
Hello Kizzy Kazaer

Today 24/6/17 I have just got a new computer I used to have a windows 7 but now I have a windows  10 + the tower (where the guts/mother board is kept is quite large
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Talk / Re: "I don't see why that helps/doesn't help"
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on June 24, 2017, 11:49:02 AM »
I love it on the other board, I'm just being prickly.  That's the big problem: my irritability.

Let me see if I can explain.  There's a system whereby when you go into the reply box to type your reply, all the sub-thread appears in the box.  You scroll to the bottom, or use a shortcut to go to the end, and type in your reply.  When your reply appears on the screen, what you've replied to doesn't, but there's a little symbol people can click on that drops down the discussion so they can be clear what's a reply to what.

People often quote the specific words or phrase they want to comment on, and that can often work.  But because the board works the way it does, it's common for there to be several intertwined sub-threads and  those of us with memory problems, and also those that haven't posted for a few hours or a day or so, can  have difficulty picking up who's discussing what.

If you don't want to reply to a particular post,  you can say you're 'tagging on'.  Nobody fusses too much how you say that, whether it's T/o or 'a general point' or whatever.

You can also do the reply the way I've said but also copy & paste the bit you want to specifically quote, either in quote marks or using a 'quote' button.

Often it doesn't matter, but it mattered to me yesterday because I wanted to be very, very sure of the comments, which appeared to me to be a continuation of some extremely unpleasant comments made elsewhere.

The flip side of this is that some posters find the system difficult and most people on the  board wouldn't get aeriated over it as a generality.  It was in the context of general comments being modified grammatically such that they appeared to be personal comments about my heritage and which therefore I wanted to get very clearly in context so that I could avoid misunderstanding.  I left another site because of that person's comments about my heritage.

What I should have done, of course, is to have scrolled on by, not to have got upset, because the comments may or may not have been personal, but if they were, that person would be best avoided.  I daresay that person would have a different account because we each perceive things differently.

So the problem is my prickliness and how difficult I'm finding it to avoid overreacting.

Not that you lot are helping.  Who wants healthy apples?  I need chocolate!  (Sunny stamps foot furiously, then regrets it, the foot being the broken one, and hops off irritably...)
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Cafe / Re: Getting married
« Last post by oldtone27 on June 24, 2017, 10:29:36 AM »
Rosie, perhaps you can go to the wedding. After all this board offers great things like virtual chocolate and virtual hugs, so perhaps Sunshine could organise a virtual passport to her virtual wedding if it doesn't put too much pressure on her.  >whistle<
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Cafe / Re: Getting married
« Last post by SunshineMeadows on June 24, 2017, 09:25:52 AM »
 >biggergrin<

Lovely picture, gosh they idea of being a Mrs makes me feel old lol.

I have a friend that I met online just before I met Mr Sunshine and so have known him for about 14 years. I would have liked to invite Geoff but as we have never actuall met on land I decided hmmm probably not the best time  ;-)

All of a sudden I am feeling stressed at the thought of how twenty guests are going to fit in the house.

On the upside a flowered hairband thingum arrived in the post yesterday so I can have a faff about whether to use it or not. Is the tradition that brides onlywear silver, gold and crystal jewellery?
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Talk / Re: "I don't see why that helps/doesn't help"
« Last post by SunshineMeadows on June 24, 2017, 09:16:19 AM »
 >bighugs< >chocolate< >apple<

Is there anything you get from being on that board that helps or makes you feel good?

I am glad you are posting about this here because there are a lot of people who care about you  >bighugs<

I dislike the notion of changing my response to someone rather than enlighten them to what a tw** they are being but some people are just weak while others are know it alls and we cant change them. Maybe it is worth a try though.

Some people cant cope with feelings of powerlessness or not being in control and so when they see someone fall over their comments are fuelled by genuine distress.

What is happened on the other board is it something like a slow loading graphic? There may be a technical way round it. I know you have a good technical knowledge yourself so I only ask in case we can fix it.
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Talk / Re: "I don't see why that helps/doesn't help"
« Last post by NeuralgicNeurotic on June 24, 2017, 03:37:42 AM »
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Talk / Re: "I don't see why that helps/doesn't help"
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on June 23, 2017, 11:36:03 PM »
I am so incredibly emotionally fragile at the moment.   I try to deal with it with humour, to let others help me, to take time out to watch videos or listen to music etc., but I feel like I'm on a hair-trigger all the time.

The sooner I can find a way to chill again the better.
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Talk / "I don't see why that helps/doesn't help"
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on June 23, 2017, 11:11:36 PM »
I've come here to back off from another board where I'm close to totally exploding with fury because some posters are refusing to use the board the way it's meant to be used, so that others of us are having problems following threads, and I'm getting comments along the lines of "All I see when I do what you want is such-and-such, which I don't find helpful, so I can't see why you need me to do it."

I want to scream "Who gives a toss whether you can see how it helps, it's how the board's designed, so why do something that takes longer and is more complicated and not how the board is designed when someone is asking you not to in posts that address them personally."

I'm so fed up with it.  The overall attitude that says "I'm not going to do it because I can't see why you'd find it helpful or because I wouldn't find it helpful, even though it would take me no more effort to do it that way."

It's the other face of something that's also bugging me at the moment - the "you should use a walking stick" type comment, said insistently and in a tone of voice that overrides any argument by me, as the person they want to use one, that it doesn't help.  After all, why should I know what does or doesn't help me as opposed to what does or doesn't help people in general?

There are days when I oscillate between wanting to scream at everyone and just feeling horribly, horribly depressed and thinking I just want to hide away from the world and not interact with anyone.
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