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Have to say, I've sometimes wondered if there's any link between smoking rates falling and obesity rates rising... ie, if people no longer have a cigarette in their mouths, they're putting food there instead   >erm<

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Welfare Rights / Re: Refused home visit requested
« Last post by KizzyKazaer on May 20, 2018, 11:59:15 AM »
Sending my condolences, Fiz - and you should certainly attend the funeral if that's what you really want to do.  Who do your children think they are, to try and dissuade you from going?! It's not a decision for them.  Any 'awkwardness' will be their problem.  Not yours.
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Disability Q and A / Re: incontinence wear
« Last post by bub1 on May 20, 2018, 11:02:14 AM »
Fiz I donít feel wet with mine. So you feel dry all the time.
I order from eBay. Look around on there as they are the cheapest
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Cafe / Re: Re-launching the ship happyness by bulekingfisher
« Last post by bulekingfisher on May 20, 2018, 10:41:38 AM »
Hello OUCH READERS

I have been living in one of these homes for life I can get around a  ground floor house in my wheelchair + as I only have full co-ordination in my right arm there is not a lot of alterations + as I have my support worker Helen to help me cook , I keep my tea bags in a light weight plastic box so I don't drop the tea caddy + I use sweetx in a little plastic tube instead of a heavy sugar bowl plus a light weight milk bottle. The tram stop's out side the complex of house's for life with individual adaption's. This tram goes to the shopping complex the mother with babies'/ toddler children do most of the talking keeping other passengers' entertained + telling new people to the area where the bargain's are no-one is stand offish so the 2 community's just meld in to each other
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Welfare Rights / Re: Refused home visit requested
« Last post by Fiz on May 20, 2018, 03:41:12 AM »
My father in law died peacefully at yesterday morning. My children don't want me at the funeral saying it would be too awkward. I'm sure they don't realise how close I was to him, they just see me as not a blood  relative so assume I won't feel the same.
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Disability Talk / Re: Social needs assessment
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on May 19, 2018, 06:50:35 PM »
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It's peace of mind for me.

Which matters.

Mental distress can cost the state far more than a funeral policy.
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I have yet to read of any culture/society round the world through history that didn't engage in the use of substances and/or activities to give people a 'lift'.  I get the general gist that there are two types of good feelings, that are labelled in lots of ways, but I think of as a buzz and happiness.  But how many of us ever analyse what of what we're doing produces which?

We've put pressure on people not to do this, not to do that, and often for very good reasons, but it leaves a vacuum, and we seem to have forbidden most of the 'thin' feelgoods, leaving people with the 'fat' feelgoods, except certain prescription meds and feelgoods like the exercise of power and bolstering one's sense of superiority.

One of my favourite obesity rants is about how most of the most commonly used prescription drugs for psychosis and mood disorders, including some personality disorders, cause metabolic syndrome, and are therefore obesogenic for many that use them.  We live in a country where at least 2% of the population are on drugs like antipsychotics, lithium, 'anticonvulsant' mood stabilisers, SSRIs etc.  I'd guess it's actually a lot more.  So if just one in four of them puts on significant weight, that's 1/2% of the population that are actively encouraged, or even forced, to take pills that will make them fat.  The same goes for various other drugs that Bigpharma have managed to turn into normal essentials.

Another analogy.  I drink coffee.  It's normal in our society to use xanthines, which are particularly found in coffee (caffeine), tea (theobromine) and chocolate (theophylline)(chocolate).  But there's a bitterness there, hence an incentive to match with sugar and for all the holier-than-thou people that enjoy their xanthine kicks but manage not to supplement with sugar, there are those that got hooked on xanthines + sugar.

I don't smoke and I drink very little, but when I see people hooked on them I don't feel superior.  I observe, for example, that smoking is prevalent amongst people with severe mental illness.  I used to think it was primarily about trying to 'self medicate' dysfunctionally, but now I believe that either nicotine or other substances in tobacco actually help people with psychosis. 

I want to lose more fat but not to satisfy the smug so-and-sos, merely to make it easier to get up again when I fall over, and of all those in our society I feel for, one category is those that are bombarded with advertising for junk food, hit financially by austerity, living in 'food deserts', and of a social class that others feel able to look down on.  (I come from a mixed family background including travellers and titled.  I went to what used to be called a 'decent' school, have studied at five universities (blah, snobby blah) but have also been street homeless, very fat, very mad, and 'socially excluded', so I've seen the top and bottom of it.
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Disability Q and A / Re: incontinence wear
« Last post by Fiz on May 19, 2018, 05:29:28 PM »
Where online are the cheapest tena pants? I ask as I don't do shops, so online it is.
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Disability Talk / Re: Social needs assessment
« Last post by Fiz on May 19, 2018, 05:26:08 PM »
I had written and left a long letter explaining to my children about public health funerals and how they could legally refuse to pay, the only money the state can take is from your estate and they can have my furniture and clothes if they want them but they won't come close to paying for a funeral. However I've worked for adult services and know that they hound all first degree relatives until the emotional pressure means they feel obliged to take out a loan to pay for a funeral. Even relatives who've had no contact with the deceased for years. If I had strong adult children who knew their entitlement and legal position I wouldn't have worried about a funeral plan but I have an autistic daughter with high anxiety and two sons who have no clue about the system and I couldn't be sure, knowing adults services as I do, that they wouldn't be pressured into taking a loan out and then not being able to pay it back as they work for the living wage and live in privately rented accommodation. And I'd hate to add stress to my dd so although I know full well I can have a public health funeral, I just can't leave that stress to the children. The last large payment is September then a small one in October then it'll be paid for. The simplest funeral plan I could find. It's peace of mind for me. I'm unsure how I will manage with bills and food until then but I'm taking life one month at a time.

I was contemplating buying a second bra today but decided I've washed and dried overnight the one bra for ages now, who needs two bras. That's the kind of thinking I need to be thinking! But as yet this adult service team don't know what my outgoings are and unless things have changed since I worked there, the financial and benefits team (FAB) do the financial workings out as to how much anyone has to contribute so unless things have changed these two will be coming to continue asking questions about my needs and support. At the moment I can't even contemplate leaving my house so it's a tricky conversation.
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I think there is something in what Sunny says.

I am overweight, not excessively so, but I could do with loosing about a stone. Having an arthritic knee exercise is not easy apart from the fact that it is not a very efficient way to loose weight.

The easy way is to eat less. I don't think I eat lots but I cannot shift those last pounds. Why can't I eat less? Its because I find food tasty. Particularly those things like fats and sugar which are allegedly unhealthy.

I can afford to by 'healthy' food but don't choose to because mostly it is not tasty unless effort is made in it s preparation. I am also inclined to be lazy.

I do not suffer from stress to any extent, but I do find tasty food comforting, and I think this why very many people eat too much. I not necessarily economics its their daily stresses lives.

Food is also entertaining and distracting I think this is another reason as takes up time one might otherwise spend on less pleasant tasks. Why else are the tasty foods called treats?

Finally whilst food may not be 'addictive' technically is does play on the brain's pleasure centres and thus is difficult to moderate. The problem is that to cure an addiction one has to give up the substance, giving up food altogether is not an option. Cutting down is hard, even impossible, ask any true addict.
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