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Title: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 11, 2018, 09:25:49 PM
Was about to post on the 'Chit Chat thread of randomness dropping by' which we used to have, but as it's nearly a year since it was posted on, I was prompted to start a new thread... So here it is, and it does what it says on the tin - post about anything you like, any time, and don't worry about keeping any particular topic going >biggrin<

Tonight I've been watching England play Croatia in the World Cup semi-finals, and in extra time Croatia have just gone 2 - 1 up, so looks like we won't get to the big one after all  :-(  (don't know if any of you are following the footie at all, I enjoy the major tournaments but don't really bother with it at other times.)  Perhaps there's more Wimbledon fans here!  Or total sports-haters who'd be happy never to see it on telly again  ;-)

Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: SteveX on July 12, 2018, 12:28:39 AM
I'm not a footie fan (actually quite the opposite!) but I feel we could have won it in the first 90 mins if we only nailed one of those close chances we had in the 1st half.     Also, it seems to me that we can only score via set pieces..  when did one of our players score a 'normal' goal?

That said though, we cannot complain, they did their best and at least this time they can come home proud instead in shame like previous years.

..but yeah, as a non football fan, I'm glad it's all over now. 
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Fiz on July 12, 2018, 05:28:15 AM
The best thing that came out of my divorce was the lack of football in my life. I don't miss it. However I like the Saints to stay in the premiership so keen an eye on the scores until I know they will and then I switch football off in my brain. Haven't been able to be unaware in any shape or form of the world cup unfortunately, not that I watched any. Even the footie mad people on Facebook and instagram seem to be saying we did well despite not winning and getting to the semi finals is no disgrace.

Someone has started a government petition to start a war with Croatia which did make me laugh.

>edit to insert paragraph breaks - KK
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Monic1511 on July 12, 2018, 05:40:10 PM
I donít mind the football and have watched / had on most of the matches.  I had the sound turned down for any England match because the arrogance of the commentators really hacks me off.

 It used to be amusing watching England getting beaten until you saw the abuse and death threats dished out to the players , sorry thatís wrong, no England donít have a god given right to win and well done to the current squad of players but England would have more support from rest of uk if they canned the arrogance.

Wonder how the fools withe their World Cup winner tattoos feel 5oday.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 12, 2018, 07:51:58 PM
Pretty damn silly, I would think  >erm<  IMO, the news coverage of the game - although it was obviously important in the footballing world - has been way too excessive, both yesterday in the lead-up and today digesting the unwanted result.  Let's get back to Donald Trump's visit  ;-)

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Someone has started a government petition to start a war with Croatia which did make me laugh.

Oh, what a complete >rude word<  >doh<  You have to laugh or you'd cry...
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: SteveX on July 12, 2018, 08:14:10 PM
I know its mean of me and I shouldn't but I'll admit I did laugh a little at one guy on the bbc news site who had a huge England 2018 World Cup Winners tattoo. 

Wouldn't it have been wise to wait until after the final to have that, I mean you're tempting fate. 
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: oldtone27 on July 13, 2018, 03:42:14 PM
Talking of things which might be of general interest I went along to a Volunteers day at Lulworth Castle run by the Dorset Blind Society; the charity I help from time to time.

This turned out to be quite a significant event attended by a few local grandees. The host, and one of our patrons, was James Weld owner of the Lulworth Estate. The guest of honour was Angus Campbell Lord-Lieutenant of Dorset and the 'celebrity' guest was Julian Fellows of Downton Abbey fame, another patron.

Firstly it celebrated the centenary of society. It was originally founded to help blind and visually disabled troops returning from the Great War. The Load-Lieutenant presented a trophy to mark that occasion and said that in his experience it was quite remarkable for a comparatively small charity to survived so long. Many don't long outlive their founders.

Secondly he also presented a scroll granting the charity The Queen's Award for Voluntary Service 2017.

This was much as I anticipated but when I arrived I was a bit taken aback to be instructed to be sure and sit at the table at the front right. I was one of about six volunteers to be awarded a certificate for ten years volunteering. I really didn't realise it had been that long. A couple of others at the table had managed twenty years. I guess it is nice to recognised by the powers that be so to speak.

This was followed by a good buffet spread which together with the fine weather made it a pleasant day out.



Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 13, 2018, 04:44:49 PM
Ooh, Julian Fellows!  I became a 'Downton Abbey' fan earlier this year when I gave the parents the complete box-set for Christmas and they started re-watching it - Dad said I'd love it and he was right....

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.. I was one of about six volunteers to be awarded a certificate for ten years volunteering. I really didn't realise it had been that long.

That's fantastic, OldTone  >magic< >bubbly<  well done, and well deserved  >thumbsup<

What sort of nosh did you have at the buffet?
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: auntieCtheM on July 13, 2018, 08:24:43 PM
Congratulations oldtone.  Well done.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Fiz on July 14, 2018, 05:25:55 AM
Congratulations Oldtone, well deserved.  >star<

I went to a family funeral yesterday, hiring a car for the day but only managed to stay for the very sad committal at the crematorium and the family buffet lunch in the church hall before the back pain being so bad I worried I might not be able to drive home if I waited much longer so came home just before the thanksgiving service began which was a real shame because apparently there were several lovely tributes and memories shared during the service. My cousin has promised to send me the tributes which will be nice. I'm a technophobe but the word podcasts springs to mind despite never having listened to one so that may be the method she means. That'll be nice.

I have barely seen my daughter in the last two years and yesterday she told me that it's because I'm not interested in her, which is rubbish as I love hearing about everything she does, work wise and pleasure wise and constantly ask about everything, but she also said all I talk about is pain and stuff and there's truth in that. I guess becoming housebound because of it, going nowhere and speaking to no one except my dog who's an excellent listener, gives me little if anything to talk about and pain dominates my life. So I'm going to make a concerted effort not to mention pain at all when we communicate. It will be tricky being honest if she asks how I am but I've thought about it and when she asks I'll tell her about something I've done or that interested me or what programme I enjoyed watching on the TV. So I'll divert the question. It made me realise that others may be fed up with hearing about it too so as well as trying never to talk about it to my daughter I'm going to try not to mention it on the other (non disability) forum I post on too. And reduce it as a subject here though I know this is the one place the subject will be understood. And obviously it'll be frequently discussed with my GP! I need to discuss increasing a dose for something right now, yesterday after I returned from the funeral I couldn't lie down which was scary and distressing. I'm sure others here can relate.

My DWP PIP award letter finally arrived on Thursday and a friend is available to drive me to the garage where I will look at the car I have selected from the motability car finder as meeting all my needs this morning. I hated the car I hired yesterday, it was impossible to see any of the bonnet at all so I had no clue how much room I had in front of me when pulling out of spaces not being able to see any of the nose. Daftly it was the first time I realised how important it is that I sit in the car I've chosen to see if the visibility is good! It's been so long since I had a car. So that'll be an exciting visit and the thought of being able to leave the house and go somewhere is starting to feel like a positive thought rather than a terrifying one though I still can't imagine going anywhere to do anything social apart from meeting up with one of my two friends. I can't even imagine seeing my GP. I think being so isolated has ramped up my social anxiety so I will need gentle exposure. I've always found the doctor's waiting room difficult though; not enough personal space and trying not to make eye contact with anyone in case I know them and need to talk to them. And after this morning's exciting garage visit I'm having lunch with the friend who is taking me. So today should be a good day and a million times better than yesterday. I'm trying to increase my positivity!

What are you all up to this weekend? 
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: oldtone27 on July 14, 2018, 10:41:31 AM
Thanks for congrats.

A bit more about the event if you are interested.

Fellows came over to our table for a chat and was very approachable. One of the volunteers asked him about the film and whether he was involved. He said he had already written it and would be involved. The older members of the TV cast where quite keen, but as the programme had boosted the careers of some of the younger cast they were a bit more difficult. He didn't say explicitly but I got the impression that there might be some difficulty with filming schedules as they were so busy.

The grub was pretty standard buffet fare. Various sandwiches, sausage rolls, prawn thingies, coronation chicken vol a vonts, sort of pizza tartlets, samosas and a few others I couldn't identify but tasty nonetheless. This was followed by sweet meats such as chocolate chip nibbles, chocolate and fudge cubes, some very colourful iced biscuits with a corresponding filling which where flavoured according to colour, such as coffee, mint, etc. and scones with jam and clotted cream.

Oh and there was some birthday cake too.

Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: oldtone27 on July 14, 2018, 10:47:55 AM
Fiz, I understand your problem with car visibility. Modern cars, particularly the small ones tend to have steeply curving bonnets which makes seeing the front particularly the corners very difficult. This is not help if like me you are quite short.

But I find all round visibility is getting poorer also as windows have got smaller to allow for stronger body shells.

I guess this is why parking sensors are increasingly being fitted. You may find these a worthwhile accessory if they are available for your car. I hope you can get what you want.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 14, 2018, 05:21:48 PM
Not sure how a film version of 'Downton Abbey' will work when so much story was crammed into the actual series  >confused<

So you didn't exactly have 'posh nosh', OldTone, but good eats nonetheless - my mouth was watering, reading your description  >tongue-smile<

Fiz, hope the visit to the garage was a fruitful one and you have chosen a car that suits your needs  >thumbsup<  Will be interesting to see how your new approach to your daughter pans out, though in my personal opinion she needs to be a little more tolerant!

As for what's going on this weekend for me, will be usual stayover at parents' tonight and probably a walk with Mum tomorrow morning.  Neither parents nor myself are particularly keen to go places you have to drive to on a Saturday or Sunday - they're retired and I'm not working, so we have the option to go to, say, a garden centre for lookaround and lunch in the early part of a week.  Would be nice to have a trip somewhere when the weather takes a turn for the cooler...
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: oldtone27 on July 14, 2018, 05:43:31 PM
I'm not doing much this weekend. Like Kizzie I avoid heading coastwards as the roads get crowded with folks going to the beach where you can't park and fry for want of shelter.

There is however some very pleasant countryside which can be reached if one carefully avoids crossing main roads at congested points. Careful planning and timing required. So I might be tempted; especially if the present breeze persists. Could always sit out in my garden as it is nicely shaded by a big oak and several silver birches.

We still haven't had any rain apart from a 5 minute dribble over week ago.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: ATurtle on July 14, 2018, 08:47:58 PM
Is this silliness of groups of 22 primadonnas running around a simulated field after inflated simulated pigs bladder over yet? 

When you consider that at present there are a load of fitter people cycling about 100 miles and finishing at 30-40 mph and they will do it day after day with only 2 rest days in three weeks.  If footballers could do that the World Cup would have been over in a week, not a month. 
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Monic1511 on July 15, 2018, 08:51:39 AM
Only 1 more match - the final today, mind you the Scottish League cup has started again. Iím more interested in how Croatia produced so many player, Scotland can barely get a team together
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: ally on July 15, 2018, 09:47:46 AM
Congratulations oldtone.  I've looked into volunteering recently.  I'd now been offered two jobs.  However, I'm still waiting for the GI testing.  Despite my husband ringing the hospital,  I'm on a waiting list.  Meanwhile, I've seen a haematologist, who is in dispute with my GP about my anaemia.    I've no idea who to believe?  Does a haematologist  know more about blood than a GP?  So far, my GP hasn't discussed my blood tests with me at all.

Yesterday, my husband bundled the washing into the machine.  On opening, I spotted my SCS controller on top of the washing.  I've lost all my programmes, and, it's ruined.  Without the controller, I can't switch myself off, nor can I crank myself up.  I'm left as I am, which means I can't lie down in bed without zapping myself.  I'll need to get to the hospital tomorrow morning.  I'm not sure if I'll be given a controller straight away,  or, switched off completely,  and, made to wait for a new one .  Of course, my pain levels will rise.  Worse still, the controller is £1.000 for a new one. I'm hoping I won't need to pay out. 

FIzz, apart from on here, I don't mention my health issues elsewhere.  Everyday someone at my workplace would ask how I was.  I just smiled, and, said, fine.  It was a courtesy, they didn't want to know how I really was.  My friend's husband keeps a record of his meds on his iPhone.  He loves showing others what he's taking now.  I hope the car is exactly what you want, and, need.  What make is it?

To everyone else, I hope you're all as well as can be. I do like football, but, wasn't obsessed as some were about England.  I had my doubts about it coming home.  Too many expectations.

Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 15, 2018, 12:07:58 PM
Oh Ally, what a stinking rotten thing to happen with your SCS gizmo  >thumbsdown<  Surely other people must have accidents with them from time to time, though? (ie, I don't see why you should be charged the full amount for a replacement)  And I'd be surprised if the hospital didn't keep spares...

Tend to agree with you about the England footie team - I think they should be pleased that they got as far as they did!  But as soon as they moved up the levels, there was bound to be more pressure on them.  I don't know if anyone else will be watching the final with Croatia v France: will probably catch the second half once I've had my post-lunch snooze, and hope it doesn't get settled by penalties... Croatia haven't won the World Cup before so will be rooting for them as the underdog (even if they did beat us!)

So hang on to your patience, ATurtle, not long to go and it will all be over  ;-)

Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Fiz on July 15, 2018, 05:26:55 PM


When you consider that at present there are a load of fitter people cycling about 100 miles and finishing at 30-40 mph and they will do it day after day with only 2 rest days in three weeks.  If footballers could do that the World Cup would have been over in a week, not a month.

Some people from the group went to watch the start of the Tour de France because it starts 3 miles from the site we were staying on while we were there. I'm surprised more didn't go. I'd have gone to watch them set off had I not had to walk or stand or be in crowds lol.

I had a great visit to the garage yesterday. The motability man told me appointments were needed whereas the woman who answered the phone on Friday had said no appointments were necessary  >doh<. He had back to back appointments for the next 90 minutes but I said I'd wait, my friend who drove me was happily crocheting by the free hot drinks counter and she was happy to wait and it's rare for me to have a lift available.

I said to the man that I knew exactly what car I want if that helps, as I'd need less time than people who wanted to decide from all the cars in the showroom. So I made myself a black tea and my friend sought out the best chair for me and we waited but the man collected me after only 20 minutes and the paperwork only took 15 minutes.

The car I've chosen has rear reversing sensors but if you wanted front sensors that's a higher grade/deposit car plus only the model I've chosen has full lumber adjustment in the drivers seat which is one of the 4 reasons I picked this car. I sat in the showroom model and every single control or button to operate anything was within reach without me having to move my body at all so I feel reassured that along with mine being automatic so I won't be leaning my body changing gear that the car will be the best for least pain that I could possibly have. I could see most off the bonnet, enough for me to judge how much extra I can't see would be anyway. I'll be nervous driving again after so long but I'm incredibly excited too.

Are you all melting? My bedside fan has been on all day today, I wouldn't have managed without it. I've been resting my back today and it's helping. I keep forgetting what day it is at the moment.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Fiz on July 15, 2018, 05:45:11 PM
FIzz, apart from on here, I don't mention my health issues elsewhere.  Everyday someone at my workplace would ask how I was.  I just smiled, and, said, fine.  It was a courtesy, they didn't want to know how I really was.  My friend's husband keeps a record of his meds on his iPhone.  He loves showing others what he's taking now.  I hope the car is exactly what you want, and, need.  What make is it?

I think I'll be the same as you about mentioning pain in future when people ask. I think you're right when most people ask they're wanting an I'm fine answer. It surprises me because when I ask people how they are, I am genuinely wanting an honest answer.

I've chosen a Mazda 3    2.0 litre SE-L nav.  I hope it's as good as I'm hoping. The hatchback boot is definitely big enough for Tizzie which was a criteria and I wanted the average mpg to be over 50 which this is. It ticked all 4 boxes for me. And loving bright colours I've chosen the soul red. My PIP award is until May 2022 so when my 3 year lease of this car ends in August 2021 there'll be less than a year left of my award which is needed to start a new lease so I will be housebound once again for quite a while as I requested change of circumstances in March and only received the award letter Thursday so 4 months after my claim. But it's no good worrying about things that far ahead.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: ally on July 15, 2018, 06:27:21 PM
Unless things have changed,  I was under the impression that pip claimants were sent for a year earlier than their award date ends?.  Therefore, you may be reassessed in 2021.  Hopefully, that may mean another motorbility car, as  soon as the first one has been returned.  Perhaps  MonIc, or, someone else can verify this?  I hope your new car gives you a few years of happy motoring

Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Monic1511 on July 15, 2018, 08:58:10 PM
Ally you are correct that claimants are sent the pip renewal a year to 18 months before the current award ends.  If you got your award on mr or at appeal send the decision notice back with any renewal as the renewal says ďare you better or worseĒ and dwp compare that to their original decision not the revised decision made later, just another thing to remember.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Fiz on July 16, 2018, 07:22:21 AM
Oh that's good news. And a form asking if I'm better or worse feels doable rather than the horrendous whole application form and face to face assessment. And my spine consultant actually states that my back condition will never improve, which made me cry at the time but would be useful then.

Today the garage man will fax through my forms to motability, tomorrow they should return to him approved and once I've received an email copy of the car order form and checked they're ordering the car I want, the car will be ordered to be shipped over from Belgium. I wonder why loads of Japanese right hand drive cars are sitting waiting to be ordered in Belgium, I suppose that country has the space to store them. I didn't expect to ever feel excited about having a car, I felt really ambivalent about even applying for the PIP change of circumstances I'd never have done that if I wasn't being pushed and encouraged to by my CPN and GP respectively. I still have no idea where I will go in it, I panic at the thought of going anywhere. But I ran out of medication yesterday and I wouldn't have had I been able to get to the chemist on Saturday. The chemist should deliver them today. So that's one place I'm sure I will go.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: oldtone27 on July 16, 2018, 10:08:44 AM
Cars are usually shipped from the far east to Europe in huge bulk carriers, mostly just between two ports rather than dropping off part loads on the way, to minimise expensive port and handling charges,

I suspect Belgium, probably Antwerp, is where Mazda distribute all their cars for Europe from, left or right hand drive.

Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: oldtone27 on July 16, 2018, 10:11:44 AM
The Sunday Express had an 'exclusive' about progress on the Downton film. I said very much the same as Fellows told us on Thursday.

Reading it I got a rather warm satisfied and slightly smug feeling of having scooped the national press.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: Fiz on July 16, 2018, 06:10:05 PM
Yup, shows you could do their job!

I'm not into period dramas so haven't watched Downton.

I've been upset today and also need back rest so I've been sieving through iplayer/ITV hub/4  etc and found precisely nothing I want to watch. That's unusual, I usually find something.
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: bulekingfisher on July 17, 2018, 02:56:05 PM
Hello Kizzy Kazaer

I think all of the foot ball player's should wear tights + Tu-Tu's because a game reminds me of Swan Lake as they are all Diva's worthy of putty medals (pathetic)
Title: Re: General chat about anything you want :-)
Post by: KizzyKazaer on July 17, 2018, 09:25:27 PM
 >lol< at the thought of the players running round the pitch in Pretty Polly's and ballet skirts  >lol<

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...I've been sieving through iplayer/ITV hub/4  etc and found precisely nothing I want to watch. That's unusual, I usually find something.

What, even with the World Cup and Wimbledon all done and dusted??