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Sunny Clouds

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Disagreements - an apology
« on: June 23, 2018, 01:26:32 PM »
I am posting this here since some people will not have read what I have posted elsethread.

Whilst I have had disagreements with others, and some of my feelings about it are very strong, my problem is with how I feel about those disagreements, i.e. it is my reactions I need to address, not other people's behaviour or comments or whatever.

I disagree very strongly as to what I understand to be the views and/or ethics of some people here in respect of various matters, and I get the impression that othes here would say the same in reverse.  But I do not know most of you in RL or else-site and there are always gaps in what we know about one another on a messageboard, which may give a very misleading picture.  We do not socialise with one another and do not have to like one another or agree with one another. 

I enjoy, I think, a different sort of debate from quite a few others here.  Anywhere, on- or off-line where people discuss and debate, there will be disagreements.  However, I think that if there are only a few people discussing it can be problematic if they are seeking different things from the discussion.

I think that I have been slow to recognise that for me this has become more of a problem with the number of posters on this site dwindling so that the sort of debate I enjoy is not the norm here now.  I believe that I should have recognised that and seen that I am out of synch with many others.

I apologise for disruption that may have caused, and as I have stated elsethread, will now be withdrawing from debates, save for the tail-end of my goodbyes, and then just popping in from time to time.





(I'm an obsessive problem-solver, so feel free to ignore any suggestions or solutions I offer, even if they sound terribly insistent.)

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Re: Disagreements - an apology
« Reply #1 on: June 23, 2018, 04:02:18 PM »
Hi
Iím sorry you feel you need to withdraw but appreciate that itís what you feel is best for you.
I hope when you pop in you will continue to contribute even if itís not getting involved in debates.
Take care
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Re: Disagreements - an apology
« Reply #2 on: June 23, 2018, 05:48:33 PM »
Thanks for posting that, Sunny - and I echo what Monic said.

Disagreements/misunderstandings between people is probably inevitable on occasions whatever the size of the posting membership on a message board, but I feel it should not be a reason for anybody leaving.  There's not much that can't be sorted out once those involved have had a chance to take time out and think about things - and as I said in Management Feedback, I feel this is one of the safest places on the Web to do so.  Anyway, we keep trucking on  :-)

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Re: Disagreements - an apology
« Reply #3 on: June 23, 2018, 09:36:08 PM »
Hi Sunny, don't feel bad about what is going on.  We love reading what you say even if we do not join in with your discussion.  You have very interesting views and I would be sorry if you did not pop back every now and then, and join in with whatever is going on.   >hugs<

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Re: Disagreements - an apology
« Reply #4 on: June 24, 2018, 06:32:40 AM »
 >bighugs<

On the one other message board I post on there was a similar problem with one or two people feeling a "chat" thread was a debate and people feeling upset. It was suggested there that if someone started a thread to have a debate type discussion about something, then they'd say so in the thread title so in this instance it would have said "Debate: Paultons park disability consessions"

For me the problem became personal quoting my mobility ability, entitlement and decisions about who I share my PTSD mental health issue with, whereas had it been kept generalised it wouldn't have felt so personalised.

I'm sorry you feel you have to be here less often but respect your decision, for me what's done is done and there's no hard feelings (emotions suck - frequently) and I hope that when you're ready, you'll change you mind.

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Re: Disagreements - an apology
« Reply #5 on: June 25, 2018, 12:05:50 AM »
Hiya Sunny, there's no need for you to be apologising for anything >hugs<  Like you say we all have our disagreements from time to time and sometimes things can get a bit heated. Certainly I have many times over the years been a bit too quick to fly off the handle and girn about things.

Over recent weeks and months there has been reduction of solid issues with which the DWP and its welfare reforms has managed to get much front page coverage and I feel it is this reduction that has seen fewer folk searching for somewhere to talk with others about how things are affecting them.

The government and its MSM lackies are only too happy to see numerous stories filling front pages to do with Brexit, Trump or as we're seeing now football. When the Office for budget responsibility released its recent report we simply witnessed the DWP through McVey parroting out its often repeated mantra or response of claimants being only too happy with their situation under Universal Credit even though the DWP cannot show any form of proof backing up such statements. Even the UN's report on the abuses of the rights of disabled benefit claimants by the British Government was treated as nothing more than an irrelevance.

When the BBC's early morning schedules run a bit dry or short of repeats I'm sure the government will have a quiet word with them and have them again running such as benefit scrounger type programs. It'll be then that Ouch Too will be as busy again with many finding these pages again as they look for honest help and advice as they try to find their way through the nightmare that faces us every day, including Sundays.

 

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Re: Disagreements - an apology
« Reply #6 on: June 25, 2018, 07:33:15 AM »
Regarding how busy (or not) Ouch Too is at the moment, it's worth noting that over the summer months, there is naturally less 'traffic' on message boards in general as people are out and about more.  Plus, this being a board used by disabled people in the main, there are times when illness, pain etc 'gets on top of' a person and thus their frequency of posting and visiting can be significantly reduced.

Of course we'd like to see more activity, but this place belongs to the members as much as the admins, so it's up to each individual how they use it...

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Re: Disagreements - an apology
« Reply #7 on: June 26, 2018, 07:02:02 AM »
The other board I posted on is normally really busy but the last 3 or 4 weeks it's been going 2 or 3 days without a single post. It feels like a ghost town. That normally happens during holiday periods but this isn't.  Maybe the weather. Two regular posters are having house renovations, one of them I'm really missing. I always end up looking forward to when schools go back in September so the posters are regularly back! So I agree..