Invisible disabilities

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huhn

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Re: Invisible disabilities

  • on: 25 Feb 2020 03:13PM
last week I was having a coffee and next to me two young men discussing  how disgusting it is  that a person who only stutters gets a disability badge and money and  higher security at work. I was just thinking, only stuttering is a big issue but I think that this  discussed person has likely other issues what are not known to this two and with this more  financial support  what made this 2 very unhappy.
I was just thinking of my two small ones and that is similar , most issues are hidden  and only seen in school, closed friends and family.

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Re: Invisible disabilities

  • on: 25 Feb 2020 05:27PM
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...I think that this  discussed person has likely other issues what are not known to this two and with this more  financial support  what made this 2 very unhappy.

Exactly Huhn - a sad combination of ignorance and plain old resentment/jealousy. Some are too quick to judge negatively, perhaps it makes them feel temporarily superior to other human beings or something  >erm<

Hello Kizzy Kazaer

About invisable disability's is it SHAME stopping people saying/admitting these unseen disability's + if it is could it be addressed by the UNITED NATION'S under human right's
Shame could well be a factor given Huhn's above example - I know I only reluctantly 'admit' to invisible disability when I absolutely have to...

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Re: Invisible disabilities

  • on: 26 Feb 2020 06:32PM
It doesn't surprise me tbh.

If you are sexist, racist, ageist, anti-gay or whatever, then you will be called up for it (and rightly so) but it's totally fine to be anti-disabled.  I myself have seen some horrible things in the street not just happen to me but to other disabled people as well and it seems we are simply fair game.   >steam<
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Sunny Clouds

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Re: Invisible disabilities

  • on: 27 Feb 2020 06:45PM
Certain politicians and media outlets have for some years now been pushing hard the notion that lots of disabled people are faking it.

For a while, I needed a white cane.  (Lovely MLers pointed me to what I  needed at the RNIB who put me in touch with a local sensory impairments charity who sorted me out.)  I was terrified when I started using it.  Why?  Because I'd read an absolutely ridiculous comment under a news article.  The writer said their neighbour said he was blind and used a white cane, but the writer said they knew the neighbour was faking it because he could climb his garden fences.  Aargh!

But actually, when you think of it, it's a typical problem regarding language and public understanding.  What does 'blind' mean?  Can't see well, can't see much or can't see anything?

And the wheelchair logo for disabled is great but also reinforces a mental association between disabled and can't walk.

I think one thing that's very much needed is good PR, and I think the big disability charities could do it, but I don't think there's a chance in hell of their working together on it, and a campaign here and there of awareness of a particular disability won't cut it.

Having said that, some people are just nasty and it continues to upset me how many people won't speak up.  Twice I've been assaulted on buses and although people have got off the bus specifically to help me, i.e. before their intended stop, none have challenged the assailants.

Looking back on it, there's no way the one driver didn't hear the loud ranting insults heavily interspersed with 'f-word disabled' and similar terms.  I've a suspicion his main concern was for his own safety (which I can understand).

But if he'd had a fare-dodger on board, the correct procedure, which most drivers round here follow, would have been to stop the bus, switch off the bus, open the doors and refuse to move until the offender got off.

So why not do it where there's an assault on someone?

Societal attitudes worry me yet there are little good things. I'm going to mention something I did, but it's not what I did that warms me. Yesterday, in a supermarket, I saw a woman in a wheelchair next to the milk trolleys, which were all empty, looking up at alternatives on a high shelf.

I politely asked if I could help and at her request lifted down various products for her to examine and choose between.  What I loved was that she showed no particular surprise or relief at the offer, which tells me that it's the norm for her either to be offered help or to be given it ungrudgingly if she asks for it.

Little things like that keep a bit of hope alive inside me.
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