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Sunshine Meadows

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Hmm for those who noticed SG was posting all chatty like earlier all I can say is Doh !

SG - website builder and software support for Ouch Too.

Sunshine Meadows - Me.

Spindrift - will be proving extra content as a non Charter member.

 >x-fingers< :-)

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Thanks Girls not been feeling to good so a bit late with the Thanks >whistle<  XXX

Frances, how about a photo of your amusing birthday dog, tortoise and elephants?  When you're up to it of course....
Hmm for those who noticed SG was posting all chatty like earlier all I can say is Doh !

SG - website builder and software support for Ouch Too.

Sunshine Meadows - Me.

Spindrift - will be proving extra content as a non Charter member.

 >x-fingers< :-)

Someone's going to end up discombobulating themselves at this rate  >whistle< >biggrin<

Sunshine Meadows

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Frances,

Sorry I missed your birthday I think it was a  couple of weeks before I returned to Ouch Too. I am glad you had a happy time.

I bought someone close to me who lives far away a Gruffalo and when we text back and forth by phone she talks about Gruffy the way I talk about my cats. She can no longer have cats because she lives near a busy road.


Kizzy,

Lol the amount SG posted today I hope Sunshine did not accidentally join in with the tech speak oh wait I am Sunshine  >fairy<

It is actually working out okay because SG is reminded not to be overly emotional.

Fiz

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I am finding life stressful with so many men coming and going. The landlord's gas safe engineer came on Tuesday to check the boiler but it stopped working while he did so, that meant he came back on Thursday to fix it.

Thursday the builder and his team mate came and cleared the patio of weeds and bits and bobs, took up 4 slabs deep worth of slabs to make the patio smaller and Friday they put in an outside tap from my kitchen and laid concrete over a third of the patio. It's rained yesterday and looks to rain all day today so I'm unsure whether they'll be able to lay another block of concrete over the next section of the patio tomorrow or not. It's going to be so nice not having weeds growing like triffids over the patio making it unusable. I hope they can finish their part of the job this coming week. They're also concreting the side path too so that will also be weed free always. That's stage one of the garden transformation. Yesterday a man came to replace my broken back door that Amazon broke while delivering a parcel through a permanently sealed cat flap. Amazon have agreed to refund my landlord for the new door. So this coming week it's just the 2 builders and I'm unsure whether they'll be finished this week or not. Now they've fitted an outside tap I'm assuming they won't need to come into the house at all. I've been self medicating to manage my anxiety around all the men last week including yesterday. I'm barely sleeping and I know that's because I'm anxious about the men.

I'm telling my brain that it'll all be worth it in the end but my mind isn't taking that as reassurance that everything is okay meanwhile. I saw a doctor say on a programme last week that PTSD never goes away and that what the therapy is for is to learn to live with it and manage it but I've never been offered any therapy so I wouldn't know. I'm on the waiting list for counselling through rape crisis maybe the counsellor will be trained in counselling PTSD given who is employing her.

So life for me is stressful at the moment.

How are you all doing?
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KizzyKazaer

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That is a lot of workmen and activity all at once, Fiz - I wouldn't care for it either, though for different reasons!  You will indeed be glad to have the work done, but I agree it's hard while it's actually in progress:  hate being 'on standby' for any sort of visitor to my home, especially if they're vague about the times or just plain unpunctual (worse still, a no-show - I had quite a bit of this last year when the windows were all replaced)

 >x-fingers<  the stress ends for you sooner rather than later.. 

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How are you all doing?

OK at the moment, touch wood!

Fiz

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I'm awake and dressed and have had my mug of green tea. I'm unsure if the builders will come given the rain but I think the man that I have spoken to will text to say whether he's coming or not. I would really like it done asap so if everyone could tell the rain to buzz off that would be great.

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nice  then i send you some  cake for the tea and a big umbrella for your house.

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I'm definitely going to have a garden party when it's done when or if the summer weather arrives.

I'm going to London on Wednesday to work with Rethink, of all the mental health organisations I think Rethink are by far the best. It has worked closely with Richard Wessely putting together proposals for ammendments to the MHA. This is more research on a different mental health issue.

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A tricky part of concreting a patio area is I can't let my dog out. So I'm escorting her to the entrance to the adjacent park here whenever she feels restless. Which is often! Including at 2am and I struggle to get back to sleep. Still, no plans for Tuesday so I can veg if necessary.

Mind, a set of paw prints over the patio would look quite cute I think!

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My anxiety is now massive about the London trip tomorrow. Yesterday I emailed saying I could no longer go because I can't afford the ticket. They are refunding travel expenses but I just don't have the money up front. The lady emailed back and said she'd discuss with her manager and then mid afternoon said they're purchasing the ticket for me and I just collect them at the ticket office. So that's it, I'm going. But it will be interesting because the research is specifically on treatment resistant depression, and how we are treated by mental health professionals. I've never met people with TRD and it will be interesting to hear from the others if they had any therapy that has been helpful plus I too would like to know how the professionals treat them. I've been given the list of subjects we'll be discussing to make sure I'm happy discussing those subjects and won't be triggered though there will be mental health first aiders there. The consoling part of my brain is trying to convince the anxious part of my brain that all the other people either have the exact diagnosis as me so will be just as anxious and will therefore have full understanding of how I'll be feeling because I'm sure they're feeling the same feelings. And the person/people hosting the discussion are Rethink employees who will have a lot of knowledge so I'm not going anywhere where people might think I'm crazy if I cry in front of them for no obvious reason.

I'm anticipating a crash Thursday onwards though I hope it's not as bad as following my daughter's graduation and won't last as long or be as debilitating. I'm choosing train over driving so I can take diazepam or morphine as needed.


KizzyKazaer

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I've never met people with TRD and it will be interesting to hear from the others if they had any therapy that has been helpful plus I too would like to know how the professionals treat them.

That alone is a good enough reason for attending this meeting - just focus on that if you can, and it's sensible to 'let the train take the strain' rather than giving yourself the extra effort of having to drive - this will also hopefully cut down the exhaustion you feel after the event  >x-fingers<

Just finished putting away the weekly shop, that's my excitement for the day  ;-)   What are the rest of you up to?

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Just come home after helping at the VI group coffee morning.

Organised a brunch at a local pub next month and we have a couple sailing days booked for May; courtesy of the local sailing charity.

KizzyKazaer

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You sound like a busy person, OldTone - is the sailing for the VI group as well?

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The sailing is with Sailability which are a sailing for disabled people charity. They kindly organise a couple of sessions for our VI folk without the need to become regular members.

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I am wondering if I answer the door wearing pyjamas bottoms, a shirt and trainees will the postman think I am a computer coder or hacker, or need to get the laundry done.

I can't wear slippers they make me fall over.
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