The freedom we get from having mobile phones?

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Sunshine Meadows

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My Aunt is very poorly and so we only keep in touch via text message on her phone, Yesterday was her birthday and I spent the day worried about getting no reply from the birthday text I sent. It is selfish of me to be relieved at this mornings news talking about the O2 network being down, my Aunt will text me when she can.

All this set me to thinking about how things were back in the 1980s when if a taxi did not turn up you had to be able to walk to a phone box and rebook the taxi. If a friend or relative was late picking me up I would just have to sit and wait. The outcome was an obvious one I stopped going out and trying to do things because the stress my lack of mobility was too much for me. This was when I could no longer use a bicycle to get around and about, and years before I got my first NHS wheelchair that weighed a ton.

I realise the freedom people get from having mobile phones are not only mobility related so I am interested in hearing what you have to say.

lankou

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The problem I have is knowing where the local "not spots" are for mobile phones. Signal in my home is rubbish and from 500 yards South, non existent.

Fiz

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I have real anxiety around phones and only occasionally speak to my dd when she needs to talk and very rarely anyone else. So texting to me is an absolute essential for me to connect with anyone at all. Living alone, it feels like an absolute essential to life.

And I often think back to days without them and wonder how we managed!

JLR2

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Me and mobile phones >lol<   I don't even try to text, my not having a clue how to find text on my phone >doh< so even when there's a message sent to me I have problems trying to find wherever the heck it is. I have a smart phone which I bought in Berlin which comes with two cards, one is for use when in Berlin the other is a UK based card, my use of this phone is limited to using it as a....mobile phone, I phone the family in Glasgow to let them know I've arrived in the city and likewise my friend in Berlin for the same purpose. Outside of these calls I simply don't use the thing preferring to make my calls from my landline when I can record calls.

My recording of my calls helps when things like reference numbers are being given as my brain and writing can become somewhat disjointed when trying to write down numbers/sequences of letters, something that sees me writing numbers/letters in the wrong order so being able to listen again to the call I get things more or less sorted out.

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I can't use a phone at all. All my life I've needed someone to use one on my behalf.  Arranging a date with a boyfriend via my parents when young wasn't good.  Having to ask a stranger passing by the public phone box to ring my husband, as I was stranded, was cringe worthy as well as difficult  When my dad had a heart attack while with me, trying to find someone to ring the ambulance service was a nightmare.  Therefore, texts on a mobile phone were a god send for those like myself. I'm listed with the emergency services via my mobile phone, so, I know I can get help if needed.  The days of embarrassment, lack of independence, my safety, and everything else,  is now sorted.  Wish it had been invented years ago.

Sunshine Meadows

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Wish it had been invented years ago.
>biggrin< the extras are helpful too like gps and maps help me know where I am. My sense of direction remains poor and I always get lost in hospitals.

Fiz

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I can't use a phone at all. All my life I've needed someone to use one on my behalf.  Arranging a date with a boyfriend via my parents when young wasn't good.  Having to ask a stranger passing by the public phone box to ring my husband, as I was stranded, was cringe worthy as well as difficult  When my dad had a heart attack while with me, trying to find someone to ring the ambulance service was a nightmare.  Therefore, texts on a mobile phone were a god send for those like myself. I'm listed with the emergency services via my mobile phone, so, I know I can get help if needed.  The days of embarrassment, lack of independence, my safety, and everything else,  is now sorted.  Wish it had been invented years ago.

I had no idea you had the same struggles with phones. I thought I was irrationally crazy for not even being able to call my son. I feel so much less alone now and that it's a real problem some people have.

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The thing with mobile phones is they cut out the face to face meets, being deaf NOT a good idea as it promotes a sense of being 'in it' when you actually aren't and probably more isolated as a result.  Yes, you can communicate to the world with a phone or the net, but it's not the same as direct communication to the person, who may or may not be who they seem.  It's not social media but the opposite in reality and the only social aspect is where you join closed groups keeping everyone else OUT.  I think the mobile has been bad for socialising its created an opt-out instead.

Spindrift

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On the Edge,

I think there is a generational aspect too this and people  in their early twenties whether disabled or not , deaf or not, seem to prefer the none vocal way of interacting.

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For anyone who is older and not already in a social circle of family and friends in the real world it can be difficult to 'join' something that has been in existence for a while. For example. I found in difficult to join in on BBC Ouch because it felt like so many people already knew each other.

KizzyKazaer

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Shock horror, I don't actually possess a smartphone, and have no desire to get one.... I do have a basic mobile phone (not the house-brick variety  ;-) ) which I can use for calls and texts, but only take it with me on rare occasions: it's usually switched off as people tend to ring me on my landline anyway. 

Wouldn't like to be with no phone at all though, as I was in the mid to late 80s - call-boxes on wet windy evenings were no fun!

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For anyone who is older and not already in a social circle of family and friends in the real world it can be difficult to 'join' something that has been in existence for a while. For example. I found in difficult to join in on BBC Ouch because it felt like so many people already knew each other.

Yes, I can understand that - breaking into what seems like an 'established' group can be pretty hard..

On the edge

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Can be a double-edged sword if your issue is communicating with others.  Being deaf the phone has been a boon in maintaining contact with relatives, friends, even contacting areas of the system and tradespeople, the downside is less and less face to face effort being made with real people in real time, as we need to be able to do that to effectively socialise.  To be honest I have NOT seen deaf people benefitting socially with hearing this way.  We seem to be following the hearing trends of being net people with no real interactions with face to face etc.  When I go out to socialise I ask friends to do the same as me, leave the phone at home.  Socialisation by remote doesn't work for us, and we cannot hone or learn skills we need via text messaging.  I don't want to sit there being interrupted 15 times an hour while someone rabbits on at a phone.  I'd just leave.